Now a New York Times Bestseller
A hilarious, thoughtful, and in-depth exploration of the¬†pleasures and perils of modern romance from one of this generation‚Äôs sharpest comedic voices
At some point, every one of us embarks on a journey to find love. We meet people, date, get into and out of relationships, all with the hope¬†of finding someone with whom we share a deep¬†connection. This seems standard now, but it‚Äôs¬†wildly different from what people did even just¬†decades ago. Single people today have more¬†romantic options than at any point in human¬†history. With technology, our abilities to connect¬†with and sort through these options are staggering.¬†So why are so many people frustrated?
Some of our problems are unique to our time.¬†‚ÄúWhy did this guy just text me an emoji of a pizza?‚ÄĚ¬†‚ÄúShould I go out with this girl even though she¬†listed Combos as one of her favorite snack foods?¬†Combos?!‚ÄĚ ‚ÄúMy girlfriend just got a message from¬†some dude named Nathan. Who‚Äôs Nathan? Did he¬†just send her a photo of his penis? Should I check¬†just to be sure?‚ÄĚ¬†
But the transformation of our romantic lives¬†can‚Äôt be explained by technology alone. In a short¬†period of time, the whole culture of finding love¬†has changed dramatically. A few decades ago,¬†people would find a decent person who lived in¬†their neighborhood. Their families would meet¬†and, after deciding neither party seemed like a¬†murderer, they would get married and soon have¬†a kid, all by the time they were twenty-four. Today,¬†people marry later than ever and spend years of¬†their lives on a quest to find the perfect person, a¬†soul mate.
For years, Aziz Ansari has been aiming his¬†comic insight at modern romance, but for Modern¬†Romance, the book, he decided he needed to take¬†things to another level. He teamed up with NYU¬†sociologist Eric Klinenberg and designed a massive¬†research project, including hundreds of interviews¬†and focus groups conducted everywhere from¬†Tokyo to Buenos Aires to Wichita. They analyzed¬†behavioral data and surveys and created their own¬†online research forum on Reddit, which drew¬†thousands of messages. They enlisted the world‚Äôs¬†leading social scientists, including Andrew Cherlin, Eli Finkel, Helen¬†Fisher, Sheena Iyengar, Barry Schwartz, Sherry¬†Turkle, and Robb Willer. The result is unlike any¬†social science or humor book we‚Äôve seen before.
In Modern Romance, Ansari combines his¬†irreverent humor with cutting-edge social science¬†to give us an unforgettable tour of our new¬†romantic world.